I sometimes used to write a request or question in an email or other electronic message and then would type “just wondering” at the end of it. I also sometimes get messages that say the writer is “just wondering.”
Why? Just wondering. See. It doesn’t add much. Really, it doesn’t add anything. I wonder if I used to add it to appear less questioning.
For example, “Dear vendor, do you have an update on when you’ll deliver the product. Just wondering.”
Does the phrase make it less questioning? Less threatening, perhaps? I’m not sure. I sometimes think it’s one of those phrases used to try to emphasize that this is NOT a pushy questioning message. Hey, no worries, this is not a big deal, hardly worth asking. Thing is, it was worth asking. Plus, it’s OK to ask questions.
You know, sometimes the tone of written messages – including emails – can be hard to decipher. Maybe we use the phrase to appear friendly or less questioning. (Though a question remains a question, if you know what I mean.) So, if that is the case of why we use it maybe a different communication would be more effective.
“Dear vendor, do you have an update on when you’ll deliver the product….”
“I just wanted to make sure I know when to expect it.”
“I’m not sure I made a note of the date and wanted to doublecheck.”
or … if there’s an urgent reason:
“I need the product by the end of the week because of (this scenario) and was hoping we could hit that date. Is that a possibility?”
Either way, “just wondering” wouldn’t add much and surely wouldn’t add the relevant context. If there’s a reason to soften the message there are better ways.
What do you think?
Just wondering…. See.